Continuing with our Poise theme…
Dignity
“Dignity does not consist in possessing honors,but in deserving them.” –Aristotle
We have dignity when we conduct ourselves in a manner which exudes self-respect,respect for others and respect for the nature of an occasion or situation. Each of these is a topic in its own right,but here are some pointers:
- Self-respect:this is about self-esteem,about you valuing your strengths,valuing the value you add to the world. As a starter for 10,list 5 things you value in yourself and 5 things you most value in others.
- Respect for others:this is about appreciating others,but without putting them up on a pedestal. Recognise that you can appreciate someone and their perspective without necessarily agreeing with them –you can respect their opinion as an opinion.
- Respect for the nature of an occasion:notice and be sensitive to others’emotions,and be aware of proper etiquette –don’t dance on graves at funerals or send “With Sympathy”cards to newly married couples! Use your common sense.
Authenticity
“Honesty and transparency make you vulnerable. Be honest and transparent anyway.”–Mother Theresa
Authenticity is about being yourself,which is so much easier than having to pretend you’re someone you’re not. If you act closed and cold,others will reflect it right back at you. The trick is to be yourself in the moment,without the baggage of the past or concerns about the future. If you open the door and let out the playful,energetic,spontaneous and magnificent you,people are far more likely to connect with you,be more comfortable with you,and appreciate what you have to say.
“Always be a first-rate version of yourself,instead of a second-rate version of somebody else.” –Judy Garland
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Dignity and authenticity are two qualities that make a person a “people-magnet”,i.e. others will enjoy being in the presence of such a person.
Health,Fitness for Working People —Darryl Pace
Two live without dignity or authenticity is not living at all. You would just be an empty shell.
Robert Martin
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It is so important to be authentic. My girlfriend and I have a mutual friend that is so much more fun to talk to when he’s being real. Every now and then he pulls out the script and when you ask him how he is,he replies I’m great! My son’s doing great! Business is good…. and he just goes down the line. If you don’t get disgusted with the phony attitude and can bring him down to earth,then you get the real story.
Lisa McLellan
Child Care Expert,
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Very wise Martin! I do love that Garland quote. In my own words,I’d rather be the worst of the best than the best of the worst.
Katie
I was so going for the red sparkly shoes . . . I have a pair too,that must mean I can be my own kind of rockstar!
First rate all the way,
kate
Great analogy. I love Judy Garland.
Steve Chambers
Business to Business Sales Trainer
Honestly and being authentic go hand in hand
Jose Escalante
http://www.joseescalante.com
I liked the quote from mother teresa…Very true.
Fear of getting hurt is a huge deterant!
Bert (alter ego- Mister P)
MisterP.org/blog
there is nothing to be gained by pretending that things are different from what they really are.
Seize the Day,
Rob
Emergency Preparedness For the 21st Century Family
Just being yourself and being in the now is so powerful. It takes so much more effort/energy otherwise.
Vicki http://www.bridalthreadshq.com
well you succeeded in GRABBINg my attention
and I absolutely LOVE that quote from Judy Garland
Happy Dating and Relationships,
April Braswell
Single Baby Boomer Dating Success Expert
Even though we come from the SAME source,we are UNIQUE in our own right.
John Ho
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