I seem to have had an argumentative day today. Not because of problems or issues. I’ve just been argumentative –and I’ve quite enjoyed it!
It got me thinking…Are arguments a good thing or a bad thing?
Arguments can tease out ideas,opportunities,risks and issues.
Arguments can test soundness and robustness of plans before ideas are turned into action.
Arguments can change a persons thinking,and even,with certain skill,change a person’s beliefs.
Or……..not!
Arguments can destroy relationships –and Life is all about relationships.
So next time you begin to open your mouth to argue,ask yourself “Is our relationship up to it?”
Are arguments a good thing or a bad thing? The answer,as it so often is,is “It depends”.
What do you think?
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“Vehemetly defend your point of view…few else ever will.”
Greg Dougall,http://www.gregdougall.com
I prefer arguments that include smiling and laughing….
“Vehemently defend your point of view…few else ever will.”
Greg Dougall,http://www.gregdougall.com
I prefer arguments that include smiling and laughing….
I hate arguments. I am not a very confrontational person. I’m also the type to try to see both sides of every story so I don’t take a firm stand on many things at all.
Lisa McLellan
Babysitting Services – Babysitters and Nannies
Arguments can be fun. After 16 years of marriage I can tell you one thing,my wife is always right,whether she is or not.
Robert Martin
http://www.carbuyinghq.com
I think Robert’s wife is always right too.
As long as you don’t go for the throat,arguments or should I call them debates (?) are a good thing. Life would be pretty boring without a passionate argument.
And what about making up??? hmmm?
Jennifer Battaglino
The Harwood Center – Tinnitus,Chronic Illness,Fears,and Anxiety
I think arguments can be productive,but that they can easily be destructive. Whether or not an argument edifies or tears down depends a lot on the participants.
one thing I keep in mind. when arguing with someone…
if I was the other person with all of their life experiences and intelligence (limited though it may be),I would probably believe the same wrong things they are saying. glad I’m not them…
Seize the Day,
Rob
Emergency Preparedness For the 21st Century Family
Arguments are simply expressing each sides opinions. There must be communication,or things will really fall apart.
Quarreling,on the other hand is not good. I think anger is coming,and people don’t think straight when they are angry…
Good question,
James
BusinessAndMarketingMakeover.com/blog
To the only right Martin in the internet,
Arguement is to see who wins;discussion is to see what the truth or reality is.
John Ho
Numerology Expert Helps Understanding Personality for Better Influence &Persuasion
Arguments! I have learned that for me it is generally good to stay away from them. My son and I can scream at each other over a political idea and immediately afterwords be back to normal relations.
One of my sisters got so upset with me as I explained the negatives of the Obamanation Presidency that we have decided to not bring up that topic between us. Of course I won’t be able to help myself but I’ll wait for what I think is inevitable and ask her if this is change she believes in.
In arguements one can always agree to disagree. I got my chuckle for today reading some of these coments. LOL
Vicki http://www.bridalthreadshq.com
Arguments seem to be the classic two-edged sword. I’d go for a robust debate long before entering into an argument.
Steve Chambers
Business to Business Sales Training Expert
It really does depend on the situation. Sometimes it’s necessary. Others you might just be fueled by you competitive spirit.
Jose Escalante
http://www.JoseEscalante.com
Not all parties wish to debate or argue. I know plenty of people who prefer to have polite conversation even with their dearest friends.
Healthy Living,Katie
Yeah,careful with this one. Not all cultures value arguing,and recognize that women who argue are treated very different socially –not at all favorably. Men who argue are seen as debating. Women who argue are seen as b*tches. It’s not accurate,it’s not right,but that’s the shakes.
Building Super Star Talent,Kate
There is communication which is loving where we disagree. And then there are arguments where it is always about one winning over the other which can never do anything to nurture the relationship. I’m with Kate on this one.
Of course,because we have a caring relationship…it’s ok that we disagree. ♥
Best regards,
Happy Dating and Relationships,
April Braswell
Single Baby Boomer Dating Success Expert
I enjoy staying in control of arguments. Violence,no thank you!
Keri Eagan
AlternativeHealing*Insight