As blogged yesterday, composure is an important aspect of poise.
I said composure not composer!
So how can you achieve this calm, balanced and centred state? One method that works for me is as follows:
- First, clear your mind (imagine a large blank white or black screen), and focus on the here and now, no matter what else is going on
- Get physiologically stable and comfortable. Stand with your body’s centre of gravity over your heels, with equal weight on each foot, and arms and hands hanging loose. Now imagine a cloud of helium balloons attached to the very top of your head, such that your spine lengthens comfortably as your body relaxes.
- Now control your breathing. Take a deep breath in through your nose, feeling your breath down around your abdomen rather than your chest. Breath out slowly through the mouth, with slightly pursed lips, for twice as long as the in-breath. Repeat this four times to the same rhythm. Then breathe normally again.
- Finally, smile as you look gracefully around the room, taking in the whole room. Smile as if here and now is exactly where you want to be, and as if you’re gently excited about what’s to come.
- Now you’re composed!
“Nothing baffles the schemes of evil people so much as the calm composure of great souls.” Comte de Mirabeau (French Writer, Orator and Statesman, 1749-1791)
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You are so right on. Our physiology controls our mental state and therefore our composure.
Steve Chambers
Business to Business Sales Trainer
To be honest that just worked for me
Jose Escalante
http://www.joseescalante.com
It is true, being relaxed does show better composer or greater confidence and with greater confidence the more confusing it is for the enemy.
Thanks for the breathing exercise.
James Mason
JamesMasonOnline.com/blog
Yes, when the children start to get on the nerves, then I sometimes take a couple of deep breaths…
Trying to contain my composure.
I like this particular method.
Thanks
Jim
BusinessAndMarketingMakeover.com/blog
An interesting theory on why deep breathing has such a calming effect…
It improves the livers perfomance because your liver functions like bellows…
And your liver must process radicals/toxins produced by stress!
Bert (alter ego- Mister P)
MisterP.org/blog
So simple, yet so effective…
Seize the Day,
Rob
Emergency Preparedness For the 21st Century Family
Martin,
Breathing is so important that, in yoga, the space between the incoming & outgoing breathes is regarded as the space of God!
John Ho
Numerology Expert Helps Understanding Personality for Better Influence & Persuasion
Martin,
That is a great one. Here is one I learned from a hypnosis mentor of mine, Jeffrey Stephens. It can be used as self talk or when someone is under hypnosis.
Magic Mirror
And now Robert, when you look in the mirror, the person that you see there in that mirror, that is a person of worth, a person who respects others and is respected, a person who cares for others and is cared for. When you look in the mirror the person you see there is a person of worth, that is a person who loves and is loved, a person who reaches out to help and provide for others and as a result others reach out to you as well. You know that’s true because you are that person. You are that person of worth, that person who is respected because he respects others. You are that person! You are the one who cares for others and others care for you, that is you. Whenever you look in the mirror that person you see there is a person of worth, a person who deserves respect, because that person respects others and gives others their due for their worth. You know that because that person is you. You are that person!
Robert Martin
http://www.carbuyinghq.com
This would be a great excercise before making speeches/teaching or anything one might have to do in front of a crowd or just a few people.
Vicki http://www.bridalthreadshq.com
I was so much better at this when I was a child. In 4th, 5th, and 6th, grade, we had to perform “morning talks.” We chose a subject, had about a month to study it, then we had to give an in depth report on it. We were judged on vocabulary, visual aids, content, and poise. It was very easy to see the difference between excellent poise and not-so-excellent poise when you watched 25 kids give talks every month for 9 months, 3 years in a row.
Lisa McLellan
Child Care Expert,
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composure not composer . . . you witty one
clever titles
Learning about detox, Katie
Martin, your titles are a delight, clever.
Expanding spheres of influence, Kate
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I LEAN rather more towards MOZART myself
(composure, posture, leaning)
not one of my best silly little jokes
just certainly
a little joke
Indeed, a secret to success – SMILE!
Happy Dating and Relationships,
April Braswell
Single Baby Boomer Dating Success Expert
If we act as if we’re composed long enough, we will become composed.
Health, Fitness for Working People — Darryl Pace